Art & Culture
Don’t lose hope
A topper from a reputed college took to substance abuse and eventually succumbed to a skin disease, leaving her family distraught. Disturbingly, it’s becoming a common enough story because friends and families are not able to pinpoint the symptoms. Akash Dhanurkar, a content writer, wanted to make a short film on his sister’s life. But the people whom he approached, rejected the idea. He then chose to co-author the book with his friend Hitakshi Kathuria, to successfully deliver his message to society.
“Writing is not new to me. But it was difficult to relive the most bitter experiences of my life on paper. The book Kanya – A Green Ocean of Regression, is based on my sister’s story from being a topper who began substance abuse, and how her family, friends and everyone linked with her had to face the consequence of her deeds.”
“We as a society have failed all women in making them understand that they are precious and priceless, no matter how their physical appearance is. No matter how educated and well aware we are, most of the times we are unsuccessful in understanding and supporting others in their hour of need,” he adds.
Tanvi, the girl in the book, has body image issues. And she damages her friendship with her only friend in college because of jealousy. “I realised the behavioural change in my sister when she became jealous of her friend, who had a boyfriend. The friend could share her burden and moments with her boyfriend, while my sister only had her family. Her inability to manage her temper and open up to people only added to her depression,” he adds.
In the book, Tanvi starts smoking to overcome stress and loneliness, and her family is informed about it by the warden of her college hostel in Bengaluru. But her family ignores, hoping that they can put an end to it.
“From smoking, my sister took to weed consumption and then everything went downhill. She turned into a psychopath who tried to kill a family member and talked to herself about how her time had come. Family and friends are the closest people in our lives, and they should look harder for the reasons for change or transformation in a person,” Dhanurkar says.
However, in his sister’s case, she had lost her will to live. The family took the decision to put her in a rehabilitation centre which sadly didn’t help her. “She developed a specific kind of skin disease which became the reason of her death, in medical terms. But I think she didn’t want to live and that was the actual reason of her end,” says Dhanurkar.
“We should not just blame the person going through tough times or people who are under the influence of vices. Sometimes they don’t deliberately do it, it’s their situation and the circumstances that force them to go for something so wrong. Even if we ask people, 90 per cent of them would not know what depression is in the first place,” he says, adding, “through this book, we are trying to reach as many people as possible and get associated with NGOs and help those in need.”
Akash Dhanurkar has co-authored Kanya – A Green Ocean of Regression, based on his sister’s struggle with substance abuse and anger issues. He tells us why it’s important to
not blame those who come under the influence of vices.