My job involves a lot of travelling because of which I spend most of the year away from home. I have been in a steady relationship for a very long time now and finally will be getting married to the love of my life. Even though I see no problem in our relationship whatsoever but it is the other people in and around our lives that keep asking us weird and annoying questions in a joking manner like “Oh your husband will be away for a while, what if he cheats on you?”, “You know my neighbour, her husband lives away and she is cheating on him what if your wife does the same?”
We have spoken about this at large and we trust each other a lot, however I have noticed that whenever someone starts talking rubbish like this, my fiancée happens to get really anxious and starts asking me if I am being completely honest with her.
This is why I don’t like people — they just can’t stop talking. They don’t know what is their business and what isn’t. If you think you can run from the gossip, let me crush those dreams of yours right here and tell you that no my lad, there’s no where you can be safe from people’s nonsensical chatter about what other people are doing with their lives. And the best part is that once they start the fire, they’ll be nowhere to be found to help put it out.
If I understand your situation correctly, you’ve been on the road for a while now, and you’ve managed to maintain a sort of a long distance relationship with your girl for quite some time before deciding to get married. That in itself is something I would give you both a pat on the back for. Long distance relationships, even your type where you’re travelling all the time, can be very difficult. I mean, I know of a couple who forgot they were in a relationship because they hadn’t spoken to each other for so long due to time difference. Ha! Trust millenials to come up with something like that!
Relationships are strange these days. Being too close is a problem, being far away is also a problem. I wonder if we’ll ever find out how much distance is the right amount to be maintained between lovers to avoid destructive friction. According to my mother, the answer was one-arm distance at all times.
However, when you decide to spend your lives together, grow old together, it probably is important to make the most of your youth together too. I think it’s because when you’re young and have all the energy and enthusiasm to attend parties, functions, dinners, brunches, and other stuff that couples do, you want to do it with your partner. And then ofcourse, when you’re young, it’s just biological to have certain urges that you’d want to give in to with your partner. But it looks like you guys have already figured out these problems and that’s why you’ve reached the point where you’re about to tie the knot.
So far, so good. But things are about to change now that you become man and wife. Both parties tend to become more relaxed in the relationship, taking each other for granted because they are bound by law to each other. Have you two come up with an action plan to keep things smooth after the wedding?
Both of you need to cut out the noise of other people’s talk and focus on yourselves — your careers, you relationship, your marriage and your life together.
