If you’ve been a victim in the past, this article is for you. Not with an intention to remind of what happened, but you guide you through with the help of gently healing, reclaiming control and confidence.
Because trauma can be silent, but it's not necessary for recovery.
First—Let’s Call It What It Is: Abuse
Sextortion is not your fault. It’s a digital crime, and it happens when someone blackmails you into sharing intimate content, threatens to expose them unless their demands are fulfilled.
They use your fear to manipulate you. And in the end, it’s the victim that blame themselves for everything that has happened. But this article isn’t about guilt – but its about starting fresh.
Step 1: Stop the Spiral—Act Immediately
If there are constant threats that one continues to receive then it is advised not to fulfil the culprits demand at any cost. It’ll help them to manipulate you and put you in an even more difficult situation.
Make sure you keep screenshots for evidence. Report the user on that specific social media platform.
File a cybercrime complaint at their official website or your nearest police station. And if you feel comfortable, share it with you close ones.
You are not alone. There are systems—and people—who can and will help.
Step 2: Heal the Mind—Because the Scars Are Mental Too
Even after the threat ends, anxiety, guilt, and trust issues often remain. That’s the part most people don’t talk about—but we will. To cop up and heal from this trauma, try Journaling. Write down anything and everything you feel without judgement.
Practise a couple of exercises that will keep your mind diverted, and strong. If you feel comfortable with sharing it outside, therapy can help. Talk to survivors who have gone through the same trauma, but still have continued to live a happy life. Take guidance from them.
Step 3: Reclaim Your Power—One Choice at a Time
Healing isn’t about forgetting—it’s about taking your control back.
Start by:
Changing passwords
Doing a digital detox.
Sorting your online space. Unfollow triggering accounts. Mute toxic influencers.
Creating new content
This isn’t about pretending it never happened. It’s about writing the next chapter yourself.
Step 4: Break the Shame Cycle—You Did Nothing Wrong
Shame is the abuser’s strongest weapon.
But here’s the truth: Sextortion thrives on silence. The more we talk about it, the less power it holds.
You Are Not What Happened to You
You are not weak for falling into a trap. You are not foolish for trusting someone online. You are not dirty, damaged, or broken. You are a human being who experienced trauma—and chose to rise from it.
Reclaiming your power is a slow process. But every step you take—from reading this article to speaking to someone—is a powerful one.
