But somewhere between the high and the crash, you realize:
“This wasn’t love. It was a setup.”
Welcome to the emotional rollercoaster known as love bombing—a manipulative tactic masked as affection. Let’s break down why it feels so good at first… and why the fallout can be so bad.
What Is Love Bombing?
Love bombing is a psychological manipulation tactic where someone overwhelms you with affection, attention, and validation early on in a relationship to gain control or fast-track intimacy.
It’s often used by people with narcissistic or avoidant tendencies, but it’s not always bitter—sometimes it’s just a lack of emotional maturity.
Why It Feels Amazing
Love bombing works because it hits your brain like a dopamine cocktail. This generation has been known for ghosting each other, especially in the dating realm. But, when you get warm texts, and someone who is showering you with so much affection, you feel chosen and special.
The over-the-top affection triggers dopamine (pleasure), oxytocin (bonding), and serotonin (happiness)—making you emotionally invested fast.
The Shift: When the Bomb Drops
A high alert: Once the love bomber feels they’ve secured your trust, things shift.
Look out for:
Emotional withdrawal
Sudden criticism or passive-aggression
Control disguised as concern
Guilt-tripping or gaslighting
Hot-cold behavior that leaves you confused
Suddenly, the person who once adored you, now keeps you guessing.
Why It Hurts So Much When It Ends
Because love bombing creates an emotional addiction, when it’s gone, it feels like withdrawal.
You’re not just losing a person—you’re losing the intensity, the validation, the dopamine hits.
You start questioning every single thing that has happened from that very first moment until now and sometimes even question or blame yourself for something you haven’t done.
We live in a world where fast love is glorified and emotional rushes are romanticized. But real love isn’t built in a DM —it’s built in quiet consistency.
So, if someone shows up with fireworks, ask yourself:
Is this a spark—or a distraction?
Because real love doesn’t bomb you. It builds you.
